Max is a real jerk. A long time ago, the successful lawyer had turned over all the routine duties of family life to his wife Nathalie.His comfort and leisure time were a far greater priority. Sell the roadster and buy an efficient family car? No way!But then, Max’s fast-paced life suddenly screeches to a halt when Nathalie is hospitalized for several weeks with a complicated fracture.Alone with their two children and the dog he hates, Max quickly reaches the boiling point.As if having to play father was not bad enough, he is shocked to the core when he discovers passionate love letters written to his wife and signed “From G. in love”. Feeling that his life is slipping out of control, Max’s first impulse is to find out who his rival is. Then it dawns on him – could the way he has treated his wife be the reason why she has sought out another lover?Now Max attempts to see his situation from a different point of view. Last week he was ready to plan the yearly guys’ vacation he takes with his best buddy, but now things have changed.Max recognizes just how much he needs Nathalie’s humor, her organizing talent and her optimism, but also just how important to him she and his family really are. Max tries to discover the mysterious lover’s identity, but because of his new insight, he takes an additional step.Unfortunately, when he learns that the mystery man is Gregor, Max realizes that not only does the man have all those qualities - he is very attractive as well. His struggle to become a better husband and father suddenly becomes far more difficult.Hoping to knock Gregor out of the picture and get back in Nathalie’s good graces, Max makes an appointment with a successful life coach. But turning his life around is far more difficult than he had imagined.To make matters worse, Gregor turns out to be a loving, family-oriented man just what Nathalie needs. Max is desperate – he knows there is a real chance that he might lose Nathalie and the children.Willing to put everything on the line to keep his family intact, Max makes the biggest sacrifice of his life. Then something happens that is the very last thing he could have ever counted on…
后半部分一直在想，两位母亲的特征和她们的相处方式简直像是青年莉拉遇见中年艾莱娜，看到片尾惊讶地发现竟然真的是改编自艾莱娜·费兰特的同名小说！这样一来，玛吉演员转导演好像也没做明白瞬间变得不重要了，毕竟自省如费兰特，在写作时都脱离不了自我重复。
我还是小朋友时就能relate，但不喜欢频繁闪回和导演老公…
3.5 the drama itself is very, well, interesting, sophisticated, and a somber view of motherhood, why making it feel like a thriller... a mixture of touching and confusing moments. and speaking of work life balance for professional women, looks quite devastating, lol. and Olivia Colman, what can i say, national treasure.
所有的想法就非得都塞满这120分钟吗玛吉姐？以后是不拍电影了还是怎样。看得累死
这个月把Leda这首配乐听了上百遍。作为女人的Leda和Nina以及（典型费兰特式的作为隐喻的）娃娃三者间相互纠葛相互映照的命运，Leda视角下一览无遗的女性的脆弱与坚韧、背叛与隐忍（毛线团一样拧巴在一起），以及费兰特书写里必不可少的来自他者（neighborhood）的紧张凝视，无一不成为冲破（中产阶级静谧安详的）希腊沙滩度假童话的那股涌动暗潮。
这也太棒了吧…看简介完全想象不到的那种棒 费兰特坚持让导演做“略微狡猾的现实主义”风格/3点非常喜欢：蛋糕女和女主的对话、酒店管理员拿着章鱼到家做客 女主睡着后天已暗 管理员到阳台抽烟而娃娃放在那里 和拉低衣领、被注视的母亲听到女主坦白自己不是“好妈妈” 离开女儿感觉很棒后 在沙滩上被女儿要求陪玩 态度变化/剧本https://deadline.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/The-Lost-Daughter-Read-The-Screenplay.pdf
三星半，叙事能力略有不足。洋娃娃作为贯穿全剧的麦格芬缺乏背景故事托底，“出走的母亲”的归来与两个女儿的和解本应是重头戏却不加任何笔墨。受伤连夜跑路的结尾虎头蛇尾，莫名其妙手里多出来的橙子不提了，给女儿轻描淡写的电话也让观众的情绪无处安放。碎片式的闪回场景中，职业女性母职的挣扎倒真的让人心有戚戚焉，不禁想去读费兰特原著。（呜呜女儿们好可爱，咋能舍得抛弃呀！）
人生每一步选择，都进一步导致更多不同的选择。有时殊途同归，但过程各自曲折。
7。#NYFF59#演员转导演我一向没有什么期待，随口问了一句manager就给我留了个座我就去看了。惊喜之作吧，还挺好的。整个技法上感觉老套了点，音乐挺好的。演员好。
本来想打4星，为女主的演技。片中说她离开了3年，在俩女儿5-7岁的时候，后来呢？又回去了吗？按说离开3年不会有这么大的内疚感吧，一直以为她是离开了没再回去。如果没再回去就可以理解她的患得患失了。女人育儿真的太不容易，如果身边没有人帮助，真的会疯掉，事业、学业全完，抑郁还没人理解。无论怎样，最后可能还落一个不是合格母亲。片中的女主年轻和年老时的性格差距有点大，又是教授，阅历丰富了不是更应看清楚过去，而不是变得神叨叨吗？
导：4/内：2.5 不喜欢一切建立在不平等关系上的自我救赎
soundtrack很好听！单独片段也不错，可是导演的storytelling真的boring
Struggling to decide whether I like the film, the entire casting, or Maggie Gyllenhaal. A bit rough at the beginning. The best cast credit card I've seen. The score is so good that even I noticed it, also Peter Sarsgaard's chest hair... I think I love this film.
Btw我也好想去海边度假噢。
抉择吧，癫狂吧，把母亲神圣的伪装撕碎吧，换取做一个人的资格
不知道为什么，看到 “im a selfish mother”还是哭了出来
这 是 什 么 我 操；好到难以置信；121分钟的大火，每一分钟都让我倍受煎熬；找到这部电影，玛吉·吉伦哈尔会带你领略日常生活内部的惊悚结构，和真正的偶然、绝对的想象。
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多看看女性电影真的有益身心健康，整体观感太舒适了。虽然瑕疵不少（主要是剪辑有点跳），但对于处女作来讲，Maggie已经做得很好了，电影整体的女性气质很动人。the 【lost】 daughter，暗处的女儿/迷失的女儿，费兰特的文本总是和洋娃娃有关，而在本片里这个意象用得格外好。看电影时总会产生一种在读《失踪的孩子》的错觉，而Leda的形象在某些层面上也和莱农极其相似，或许可以理解为一种女性身份探寻的永恒主题。P. S. : Coleman真的是当代女演员之光，实在不明白这个表演怎么能被老家snub，合理怀疑是被bafta拉黑了……
为玛吉处女作鼓掌。初看感觉是一部很情绪的电影，情节也会比较松散，但一直被吸引着往下看。虽然没有做过妈妈，但很能代入女主，被生活琐事、人生选择和身份责任种种困扰着的折磨，学术的思考不可能不对日常的生活产生影响，不可能不让人去质疑日常生活的意义而甘愿于不假思索的惯性。女性的纠结在于社会对于你有很多默认的期待，默认的opt in而不是对于男生默认的opt out，比如成为母亲。要从默认调回中立再做自由选择这一步不可能在实际中不产生任何负担，即使自己可以，周围的人也不一定可以，这和学识都没有关系，可能就是没有意识，例如电影中的大师。丢失的女儿、母亲、妻子、娃娃其实都不重要，都可以丢掉。我们总是在做错误的选择，但真的学会承认这点很难。不原谅自己和折磨他人都是容易的。看了电影再次确认我实在没法成为妈妈。
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